Comments on: 20 weeks & 20 years http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/ Mon, 13 Oct 2008 19:56:04 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: The Bosphorus http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1988 The Bosphorus Sun, 27 Aug 2006 15:34:06 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1988 So much will happen in those twenty years. It is like looking over the edge of a cliff when we unroll our future like this and see where each of us may be. My goodness, we're going to be spending a lot of time at Willowbrook Elem. So much will happen in those twenty years. It is like looking over the edge of a cliff when we unroll our future like this and see where each of us may be.

My goodness, we’re going to be spending a lot of time at Willowbrook Elem.

]]> By: Joel http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1990 Joel Sun, 27 Aug 2006 16:32:12 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1990 Hmm. 20 years ago I had no idea where we'd be living a year later or that in two years I'd be a dad. Looking back, it's remarkable to me how little actually did change (same wife, same town, same basic type of work, same hobbies, just less hair). But it never would have occurred to me to plan 20 years ahead. I guess this means you're more of an optimist than I. Hmm. 20 years ago I had no idea where we’d be living a year later or that in two years I’d be a dad. Looking back, it’s remarkable to me how little actually did change (same wife, same town, same basic type of work, same hobbies, just less hair). But it never would have occurred to me to plan 20 years ahead. I guess this means you’re more of an optimist than I.

]]> By: GoldenAppleCorp http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1994 GoldenAppleCorp Sun, 27 Aug 2006 20:18:58 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1994 Wow. That really puts things in perspective. AT and I haven't thought things out quite that far. We're more spontaneous than that, advantages and disadvantadges to both ways of thinking. I barely know what's going to happen tomorrow. It will be the fist time all four people in this house will be in school. Wow. That really puts things in perspective.
AT and I haven’t thought things out quite that far. We’re more spontaneous than that, advantages and disadvantadges to both ways of thinking.
I barely know what’s going to happen tomorrow. It will be the fist time all four people in this house will be in school.

]]> By: daco http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1995 daco Sun, 27 Aug 2006 20:22:28 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1995 Twenty years ago I was working 80-100 hours per week, managed a large sales department, made a ton of money, never saw my then very small kids, never saw my wife which was okay cause we didn't like each other, drank way too much, cheated on my wife, lived a miserable life that I became ashamed of. Now, twenty years later, I'm re-married to a wonderful woman that I would never be unfaithful too, also learned that I can’t be unfaithful to myself as well, work less than 40 hours per week, make far less money (relative to the economy), have found contentment in my life, have a wonderful relationship with my children, even the 28 year old daughter that I adopted last November, am the happiest guy that I know. Neat exercise Mrs. Eaves...thanks. Twenty years ago I was working 80-100 hours per week, managed a large sales department, made a ton of money, never saw my then very small kids, never saw my wife which was okay cause we didn’t like each other, drank way too much, cheated on my wife, lived a miserable life that I became ashamed of.

Now, twenty years later, I’m re-married to a wonderful woman that I would never be unfaithful too, also learned that I can’t be unfaithful to myself as well, work less than 40 hours per week, make far less money (relative to the economy), have found contentment in my life, have a wonderful relationship with my children, even the 28 year old daughter that I adopted last November, am the happiest guy that I know.

Neat exercise Mrs. Eaves…thanks.

]]> By: AT http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1997 AT Mon, 28 Aug 2006 00:01:12 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1997 Twenty years ago... Well, I was 8. However, 12 or so years ago I was in the cuckoo's nest, and one of the exercises they were doing in group dealt with seeing the future. It was almost a hypnosis thing, and something they did often, where the lights would go out, and you'd do relaxation techniques to pretty much let your subconscious out. The idea of this one was to go 10 years in the future, and look at your night stand, or dresser, or whatever, and see what you could see. I couldn't even make anything up. I've never been able to envision a future, and its hard to plan for something you don't see. Disclaimer: This is not to mean that I'm all wiggy and have a pessimistic view of the future (tho I certainly did 10 years ago), but more to say that beyond what Eaves did and facts (20 years: AT:48, making fun of GAC and Bos for being 50 soon, kids being grown, probably not being entirely broke, maybe a few more health problems, etc), its just hard to belive the fact that a year 2026 is as real as the year 1986. Dammit, I always kill the philosophical conversations... Twenty years ago…

Well, I was 8.
However, 12 or so years ago I was in the cuckoo’s nest, and one of the exercises they were doing in group dealt with seeing the future. It was almost a hypnosis thing, and something they did often, where the lights would go out, and you’d do relaxation techniques to pretty much let your subconscious out. The idea of this one was to go 10 years in the future, and look at your night stand, or dresser, or whatever, and see what you could see.
I couldn’t even make anything up. I’ve never been able to envision a future, and its hard to plan for something you don’t see.
Disclaimer: This is not to mean that I’m all wiggy and have a pessimistic view of the future (tho I certainly did 10 years ago), but more to say that beyond what Eaves did and facts (20 years: AT:48, making fun of GAC and Bos for being 50 soon, kids being grown, probably not being entirely broke, maybe a few more health problems, etc), its just hard to belive the fact that a year 2026 is as real as the year 1986.
Dammit, I always kill the philosophical conversations…

]]> By: Joel http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1998 Joel Mon, 28 Aug 2006 00:19:20 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1998 " . . . its just hard to belive the fact that a year 2026 is as real as the year 1986." Heh. It passes quicker than you think. Make the most of it. Youth is wasted on the young. ” . . . its just hard to belive the fact that a year 2026 is as real as the year 1986.”

Heh. It passes quicker than you think. Make the most of it.

Youth is wasted on the young.

]]> By: Mrs. Eaves http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1999 Mrs. Eaves Mon, 28 Aug 2006 01:02:14 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/08/27/20-weeks-20-years/#comment-1999 GAC, though I'll certainly admit to not being the most spontaneous person, I don't think that having a loose framework to work with diminishes spontaneity. The way I see it, having that framework in place gives me the freedom to fill it. Then again, spontaneity and freedom aren't the same thing, are they? Hmmm...I'll have to mull that one over for a while. Everyone, thanks for your stories. GAC, though I’ll certainly admit to not being the most spontaneous person, I don’t think that having a loose framework to work with diminishes spontaneity. The way I see it, having that framework in place gives me the freedom to fill it.

Then again, spontaneity and freedom aren’t the same thing, are they? Hmmm…I’ll have to mull that one over for a while.

Everyone, thanks for your stories.

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