A conversation, from a while back
November 17th, 2006 by Atomictumor
Hey all,
Eaves showed me this, which is GAC at her finest, and maybe another idea of what to do with her? What do you think? Is the diamond thing… weird? When the kids are 30, will they see a diamond that used to be their mom and be like “damn dude… the old man lost it”.
I dunno.
MastaG says it’d be a good reminder, but added that its “for a highly doubtful reason”. I said “well, man, you never know” and we ended up laughing about getting her the cheapest, smallest one, because she’s a smaller woman.
I hope he can always laugh. Thats really what BJ wants…
November 17th, 2006 at 8:41 am
My heart bleeds for you and your families. That’s all I can say right now without going into horrible platitudes and junk that no one wants to read or hear anyway. Long distance hugs coming to you from Virginia.
November 17th, 2006 at 8:56 am
Awww crap!!! I’ve been reading these posts with a heavy heart, and praying all the while. Resurrection is a very cool thing - but the before part is definitely not. All the nuns are still praying. I’ll let them know about this part. Oddly enough, the beauty’s still there. Love ya
November 17th, 2006 at 8:59 am
Thanks for reviving that thread, AT. Witty, spunky, wry, GAC.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:01 am
She’s something else, huh?
But seriously, the diamond thing, I need for somebody to take point on that and find out if its just ripping off griving saps, or if its a genuine kinda deal. Any takers?
November 17th, 2006 at 9:07 am
BJ sounded sure of what her intentions were. It’s so odd to think that only 3 months later they would be such a help to you. Please don’t let this setback take away your newly kindled faith. God loves BJ and everyone and would never punish any of you in this way. If you ever question why this world has such sadness, please know that God is not the source. The Bible answers at James 1:13 “When under trail, let no one say: ‘I am being tried by God.’ For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone.” So God is never the source of heartbreaking situations like you are now thrust into, but he will give you strength to get through it. My prayers are with you in your difficult time.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:08 am
Praying again for peace.
“Don’t worry about a thing
‘Cause ev’ry little thing gonna be alright
Singin’, “Don’t worry about a thing,
‘Cause ev’ry little thing gonna be alright.”
Rise up this morning,
Smiled with the rising sun
Three little birds pitch by my doorstep
Singin’ sweet songs of melodies pure and true
Sayin’, “This is my message to you-u-u.”
Singin’…
“Don’t worry about a thing,
‘Cause ev’ry little thing gonna be al-right.”
Bob Marley knew.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:10 am
Prayers and hugs from PA. Though you probably don’t care, you site has changed my life.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:24 am
I think you should go with the diamond (if need be). I don’t know you guys, but from what I have been reading about GAC, she has a wicked sense of humor. I think the diamond would be awesome.Hopefully, after a while, you would be able to look at it, laugh, and say, “Hey, it’s what you wanted.”
My Father-In-Law and I used to pick on each other like crazy. His funeral was on my birthday. When everyone realized it and started making a big fuss about it, I told them it was just him getting the last laugh.
Praying that you never have to make that choice.
Hugs from Oklahoma.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:32 am
AT, I’ll check with the Better Business Bureau about the funeral home offering the LifeGems. I’ll report back.
November 17th, 2006 at 9:42 am
Actually, Lifegems is its own company, www.lifegems.com. Or something like that…
Yah, it sounds like something she’d be into. Then we’d just have to figure out what to do with the diamond… if it were like BJ, I’d just plant it in front of the computer…
November 17th, 2006 at 9:47 am
http://www.lifegem.com/
Looking online it seems to be on the up-and-up. Company has been featured on NPR and in the Chicago tribune. Seems to have been around for a couple of years, at least. No negative reports that I can find.
If you can afford it, it sounds like a great idea.
November 17th, 2006 at 10:01 am
I think it sounds like a very cool idea, my mom and sister would agree. I’d never heard of that, but I’d heard of them doing stuff with pet cremains so I guess it makes sense that they can do something like that too…
November 17th, 2006 at 10:02 am
Couldn’t find any BBB reports either.
November 17th, 2006 at 10:43 am
I don’t think it’s weird at all.
When you have had time to heal, find a copy of the British series, “Rocketman”, with Robson Green. I know this sounds insane at a time like this, but watch it. You will understand.
Peace and love.
November 17th, 2006 at 11:51 am
I don’t think it’s weird, either. Like I said back then, it’s pretty awesome.
That being said, I do think that they’re more expensive than they need to be - but you’re paying for something so incredibly unique and special…that it could very well be worth the money.
One consideration with this option is perhaps having three of them made - one for you and one for each of the boys when they reach the right age. Yeah, that would be oodles of expensive, but I’d be the first in line to put some cash up for it.
November 17th, 2006 at 11:58 am
“Yeah, that would be oodles of expensive, but I’d be the first in line to put some cash up for it.”
I agree w/ the Missus.
November 17th, 2006 at 12:19 pm
I wish I had some funds to help, but I was thinking (Mrs. Eaves you can email me if you think this would help) I could make some little pouch, personalized for the boys to keep theirs in. Let me know.
Vickie
November 17th, 2006 at 5:06 pm
What a great string of conversation! Sure am sorry it took such an awful experience to bring you and your friends/family into our lives.
November 17th, 2006 at 6:14 pm
The owner of the funeral home on “Family Plots” had it done when his son died. He has 3 daughters and they chose how they wanted it done. Earrings and a ring. It took about 1 1/2 years to complete the process. But the result was beautiful. I don’t believe you will not need to worry about the cost. It’s way better than having the ashes sitting on your sons bookcase like my son’s dads ashes are.
November 18th, 2006 at 5:05 pm
I think the diamond is a great idea! That way everyone can still admire her.
November 22nd, 2006 at 9:31 pm
I just lost my Dad this year and that’s exactly what I was planning on having done with some of his ashes. I spread most of them in the ocean where we’ve gone since I was a little girl and I’m having the rest made into a diamond pendant so he’ll always be close to my heart. Corny but it’s what I want and I think my father, being a geologist, would get a great kick out of being a diamond. He always told me they were worthless, I’m proving him wrong!
Do what feels right to you, not what anyone tells you is right or what you should do. If that’s what she wanted, do it. Like you’ve said in another post, it’s equal to the cost of a burial and a heck of a lot more useful. I also agree with kidsmom that it’s not nearly as creepy as an urn.
My prayers are with you in this time of trial.