Comments on: My solitude begins http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/ Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:11:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Lynnster http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10291 Lynnster Sun, 19 Nov 2006 15:41:19 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10291 Lots of little wonders today in East Tennessee, huh? And a beautiful day for it. Lots of little wonders today in East Tennessee, huh? And a beautiful day for it.

]]> By: Cheri http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10292 Cheri Sun, 19 Nov 2006 15:42:17 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10292 oh, there are no words that come to me. I have nothing to offer that will ease your suffering. Just know that you are NOT alone, an entire world is listening and grieving with you. May you have some peace today. oh, there are no words that come to me. I have nothing to offer that will ease your suffering. Just know that you are NOT alone, an entire world is listening and grieving with you. May you have some peace today.

]]> By: Debi http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10294 Debi Sun, 19 Nov 2006 15:46:31 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10294 God, I'm sorry. It's a lot like moving through jello, isn't it? My h usband died almost 16 years ago (12/1/90), and I still remember that feeling: the world's still moving and I'm still here so I'll just do what I think is right and hope for the best. It's all one-step-at-a-time. And when it just seems too hard to take another step, it's okay to sit down. God, I’m sorry.

It’s a lot like moving through jello, isn’t it? My h usband died almost 16 years ago (12/1/90), and I still remember that feeling: the world’s still moving and I’m still here so I’ll just do what I think is right and hope for the best.

It’s all one-step-at-a-time. And when it just seems too hard to take another step, it’s okay to sit down.

]]> By: Christina http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10297 Christina Sun, 19 Nov 2006 16:49:08 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10297 Just thinking about you, AT, as always...here's hoping your grieving brings you peace. Just thinking about you, AT, as always…here’s hoping your grieving brings you peace.

]]> By: Tori http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10305 Tori Sun, 19 Nov 2006 17:26:32 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10305 The deal is, AT, you're showing us (your anonymous cyber-audience/support group/family/strangers) what 'THIS' looks like. 'THIS' being the kind of unspeakable, unthinkable, world-altering tragedy that all of us spend our entire lives trying to avoid and fervently hoping we won't ever have to experience. So while I truly understand your need to chronicle 'THIS' whether anyone ever reads it or not, please know that besides the knee-jerk reader reaction of feeling tremendous sadness and compassion and the desire to hold our loved ones tighter, you are also serving as some sort of weird (big, hairy--your words, not mine) guide, of sorts. I know this isn't a how-to of grief, but it is a record of it, a bearing witness to it. And when life or fate or God allows us to go through whatever version of 'THIS' each of us will inevitably encounter, we have your words to remind us that others have gone ahead, and spied out the land and found it desolate and as horrible as we feared, but survivable. And possibly even survivable with grace and wisdom and peace. (Who knows? Maybe with kicking and screaming and whining, but that's where our individual journeys diverge.) All you are showing us is where you are right now, this moment, this posting. Thank you for that. Tori The deal is, AT, you’re showing us (your anonymous cyber-audience/support group/family/strangers) what ‘THIS’ looks like. ‘THIS’ being the kind of unspeakable, unthinkable, world-altering tragedy that all of us spend our entire lives trying to avoid and fervently hoping we won’t ever have to experience. So while I truly understand your need to chronicle ‘THIS’ whether anyone ever reads it or not, please know that besides the knee-jerk reader reaction of feeling tremendous sadness and compassion and the desire to hold our loved ones tighter, you are also serving as some sort of weird (big, hairy–your words, not mine) guide, of sorts. I know this isn’t a how-to of grief, but it is a record of it, a bearing witness to it. And when life or fate or God allows us to go through whatever version of ‘THIS’ each of us will inevitably encounter, we have your words to remind us that others have gone ahead, and spied out the land and found it desolate and as horrible as we feared, but survivable. And possibly even survivable with grace and wisdom and peace. (Who knows? Maybe with kicking and screaming and whining, but that’s where our individual journeys diverge.) All you are showing us is where you are right now, this moment, this posting. Thank you for that.
Tori

]]> By: LissaKay http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10322 LissaKay Sun, 19 Nov 2006 18:22:44 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10322 Tori ... wow! Awesome words of wisdom. I was thinking much the same thing, but I couldn't find the words to express my thoughts. It is a path that, by its very personal nature, each person must find for themselves. While it must be a solitary journey, one does not have to journey alone. We are here for you, Jake. Always. Tori … wow! Awesome words of wisdom. I was thinking much the same thing, but I couldn’t find the words to express my thoughts.

It is a path that, by its very personal nature, each person must find for themselves. While it must be a solitary journey, one does not have to journey alone. We are here for you, Jake. Always.

]]> By: Ebenezer http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10323 Ebenezer Sun, 19 Nov 2006 18:25:45 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10323 You are welcome. You are welcome.

]]> By: Exiled to Canada http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10326 Exiled to Canada Sun, 19 Nov 2006 18:32:54 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10326 I'm glad you're taking the time to grieve. It's important to let that happen, very healthy. We're thinking of you and the boys. Feel free to e-mail if you want to chat sometime. I’m glad you’re taking the time to grieve. It’s important to let that happen, very healthy. We’re thinking of you and the boys. Feel free to e-mail if you want to chat sometime.

]]> By: Lynda http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10328 Lynda Sun, 19 Nov 2006 18:34:23 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10328 I felt my dad with me a number of times after he passed away. Wishful thinking? Maybe. But it sure makes you feel better and closer to her. I felt my dad with me a number of times after he passed away. Wishful thinking? Maybe. But it sure makes you feel better and closer to her.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10358 Rebecca Sun, 19 Nov 2006 23:07:20 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/19/my-solitude-begins/#comment-10358 We grieve in the ways that work for us. No one has the right answer. BJ will always be with you. No matter where you go or what you do, she is with you. God Bless, Rebecca We grieve in the ways that work for us. No one has the right answer. BJ will always be with you. No matter where you go or what you do, she is with you.
God Bless,
Rebecca

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