Comments on: A Hundred Miles Off

By: Joel

Joel — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 02:47:43 +0000

You’re good, AT. Nobody expects you to be who you aren’t. Just be, man. That’s good enough for us. If you fall, we’ll catch you. No worries.

By: daco

daco — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 02:49:22 +0000

Two things AT. I promise not to expect you to act any particular way…..and brother, you are a “most awesome guy,” but the UN isn’t going to call.

By: Busy Mom

Busy Mom — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 04:11:39 +0000

My inappropriate time after my mother died was in Dillard’s, at the cash register. That poor woman. She only said, “Will that be cash or charge?”

By: Busy Mom

Busy Mom — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 04:12:16 +0000

It was actually kind of amusing in a weird way.

By: sumgurl

sumgurl — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 04:35:18 +0000

your heart doesn’t have to break, you know.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 04:56:44 +0000

I am really glad that you are so open to feel BJ still around you. My hope for you is that you will always stay open to that. Keep up the whispering to her. flameslgs

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 05:03:33 +0000

Things seem weird because they ARE weird. You’re not going through something that you could have ever prepared for or expected. So predictions or management, not going to be real successful.

You’re doing fine.

By: LeeAnn

LeeAnn — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 05:38:33 +0000

I am glad that you made the organ donation because I have a family member that is only alive because someone else also made that “gift of life”…..just remember there is no right or wrong way, just your way of dealing with this. My thoughts are with you and your boys.

By: VA Bluebelle

VA Bluebelle — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 05:58:56 +0000

“Dying is simple….What’s worst is seperation.” Donald Hall poet

AT, delurking to remind you that tons of folks, those known and unknown to you, are still sending all good vibes your and the boys’ way.

By: VA Bluebelle

VA Bluebelle — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 06:07:40 +0000

Crap, remember to edit…remember to edit….

“Dying is simple…What’s worst is the seperation.” -Donald Hall

Even more good vibes.
Feel them.

By: new orleans friend in new york

new orleans friend in new york — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 06:23:43 +0000

hey AT,
you just go ahead and emo whatever way works for you! love the pis of the boys on horses! they are beautiful. also love the 10 year pic - it’s a really good pic and i am sure your glad to have it.

new york is exhausting - gotta go to bed!

By: Angie

Angie — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 08:50:03 +0000

I just wanted to de-lurk and second what LeeAnn said. I have a close friend who had cystic fibrosis. I say that she “had” cystic fibrosis, because five years ago, a mother and father made an amazing, brave choice on the worst night of their lives. Their 19-year-old daughter was in a fatal car accident, and Carolyn received her lungs.

Believe me, we have never, ever forgotten that our miracle was another family’s disaster. Everyone rallying around the person who received BJ’s donations is thinking about your family, praying for you, and acknowledging that their saving grace is another family’s sacrifice.

I wish for you- a moment that makes you laugh out loud when you least expect it, a “found” item to trigger a memory that brings you comfort, and a good night’s sleep.

By: SandyT

SandyT — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 11:48:42 +0000

Hey AT, your family’s sacrifice to the family that receives the gift of life that you have provided is one of the greatest gifts another can receive. BJ will still live on in others as well as in your heart.
Don’t sharing your heart or loving words to BJ in your quiet time - the love that you two shared will stay alive in your heart forever. Don’t shy away from whispering what is on your heart.
You are a very inspiring man AT, and I’m glad that I’ve had the chance to know you to some degree in my life. I feel that I have been able to see more into who you are through your writings and you have made a difference in not only my life, but so many others. Take care, we are here for you anytime.

By: Mrs Eaves

Mrs Eaves — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 12:08:05 +0000

Ah, Cyndi Lauper.

By: AT

AT — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 13:00:16 +0000

Where?

By: Meredith

Meredith — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 13:02:41 +0000

Thinking of you today and most all day. Take care and thanks for the pictures of BJ and the one of the boys too. It helps me get a picture of your sweet family in my head. Prayers for you all.

By: Mrs Eaves

Mrs Eaves — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 13:03:34 +0000

Joel keeps referencing a Cyndi Lauper song.

By: Punk HP

Punk HP — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 13:07:59 +0000

Speaking of finding out new things, yesterday, while talking with my wife , I found out that you and B.J. came back to my house after the party. I did not know that you had stayed till after 1am talking with my wife. I deeply regret that I was not awake, and snoring upstairs.

By: Atomictumor

Atomictumor — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 13:15:42 +0000

Snort

By: Atomictumor

Atomictumor — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 13:17:05 +0000

Rather, that was a guffaw at Joel, not at you, Punk HP. Yeah, that was a very different night for BJ and I. We were really kinda turning another corner, getting to know more people, insinuating ourselves into that Oak Ridge machine, so that we could corrupt it from the inside.
But now everybody knows the plan, so I have to come up with a new one.