Comments on: Barefoot

By: jenwright

jenwright — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 13:13:19 +0000

AT, we have a fairly crappy video of the renewal. The sound is terrible and unfortunately the words are almost entirely drowned out, but you’re welcome to it if you want it.

Pigpen slept through the night and is in the kids room with my 2 playing. Well, really it’s more like he and Dumpy are fighting… I get the impression that he doesn’t care much for the baby, although the baby apparently really likes him (in his irritating sort of way).

Call if you want to. I’d love to talk to you if you feel like talking.

By: Punk HP

Punk HP — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 13:16:00 +0000

Me and da hawk Still hangin Tight.

By: damama

damama — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 13:20:51 +0000

Love the video. You have a really twisted, hilarious sense of humor. Where did it come from?! You are always good company. Love you!

By: Knarf

Knarf — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 14:18:36 +0000

The video looked very nice and great to see that you are moving still. Slow is still forward. Anguish will come when it should, don’t rush it.

Hoping to make Barley’s, at least for a bit, on Saturday but I have a game day commitment that I can not get out out of so I may be a few minutes late or not be able to stay long.

Stay strong, be courageous, and know we are here praying.

By: Atomictumor

Atomictumor — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 14:31:55 +0000

Yeah, I think its part of the charm that we’d be interupting the game. BJ and I were never football people!

By: Kate

Kate — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 14:54:15 +0000

Oooh, “abnegation,” good word. I like when the big words actually succeed in capturing what we mean.

I guess I stand by my anything-you’re-feeling-(or not)-is-right rant at this point. I haven’t found emotions to be all that tractable and willing to adhere to a schedule, which frankly I find rude, but whatever.

May the funeral home be a mere blip on your radar as opposed to a day-ruiner. When my father-in-law died in August, my husband got an itemized bill from the funeral home. That was … odd.

By: nashville girl

nashville girl — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 15:04:08 +0000

her parents—

they sound EXACTLY like my parents—- couldn’t be nicer– couldn’t be more willing to help out in any way possible, but more than a little irritating to my spouse.

he is always defensive around them as well, like he always thinks they are insinuating that he can’t take care of the kids as well as I can (their “blood”)…

hmmm. wish I had some advice– just give it some time and try not to bristle up where they are concerned— you guys are having to find a new relationship together with them without BJ as the buffer, and I’m sure it will be awkward for a while. and, I’m sure they are a little afraid that they are going to be not as much of a part of your life.

By: Netmom

Netmom — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 15:23:09 +0000

AT, her folks will make it through this. It was her mom who broke the news to me in the lobby of the hospital last Friday, and I hugged her tight. Although this is crushing for them — something no parent is supposed to endure — they are strong, salt-of-the-earth people.

As time passes, you will draw comfort from each other, though it will undoubtedly be different than it was before. And tomorrow will be Tuesday.

By: AT

AT — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 16:02:33 +0000

They are strong, and don’t get me wrong, they are very dear to me. Not just because they’re BJ’s folks, but because they’re my second parents. Like my first parents, they piss me off. Less frequently, tho.

By: Lynda

Lynda — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 16:39:00 +0000

Love the new banner!

By: melissa pacetti

melissa pacetti — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 16:42:36 +0000

hey jake, it’s fish, jenny’s friend again……….. i don’t even know what to say. i have been there and it sucks, it sucks like hell……….. i was 23, pregnant, and a widow. what’s fucked up with that sentence? paul’s funeral, well, was a big blur……… i remember bits and pieces, i had to put on the nice face and what the hell is up with the grieving widow having to console others? HELLO?????? that shit pissed me off. it will too pass………… put on the happy face. it’s hard after the families leave and the phone quits ringing. i remember still setting a place at the table for paul for months after his death. i still washed his clothes, hung them up, weird shit? you may or may not go through this, but i did. then 3 months after his death, i gave birth to his son, which resurfaced everything. you will get through this. it’s hard, i know, it’s been 3 yrs and sometimes i still just have to break down and cry, AND CUSS HIS ASS OUT FOR LEAVING US…………. i am still in the blame part. “they” say it can take years to get rid of that.but anyway, i hope this may help, i hope it wasn’t inappropriate in any way. we are still praying for you and yours……….. much love to all the kilpatricks. fish

By: Atomictumor

Atomictumor — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:07:25 +0000

I remember when it happened, Fish, and how tragic a thing it was. Truly, because of the age, and the little bit of time you guys had together, it outweighs what I’m going through.
See, right now I have a happy face. I think back on all the times, and how amazing she was, and how incredibly, unimaginably lucky I was to have her be mine for 10 years, and damn.
I just feel happy. Happy to have had her.
The other shoe will drop, but I’m not looking for it anymore. It’ll suprise me, and it’ll hurt, but I’m ready. Thats part of loving her too.
I love you, Fish. Thanks for stopping by, because I know it hurts.

By: Country Mouse

Country Mouse — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 18:29:54 +0000

AT, I don’t know you in person, and I came here by way of Zero Dad. Your story is heartbreaking in itself; your writing encompasses everything I know of grief. I will be thinking of you.

If you don’t mind, I would like to post a link on my own site.

By: Jean

Jean — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 19:47:13 +0000

Geez, this is excruciating, but having read some of BJ’s old writings, I think I get it a little. What a great thing to be able to think of this as having gotten to be together for so long, and still to have room in your heart to think of other folks. Thank heavens you have those little boys.

Someday, maybe we’ll see an entry under the “Whitey Keeping me Down” category again. I like to think so, anyway.

By: Jean

Jean — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 19:49:58 +0000

OK, that film is really cute. Just hit ‘play’…maybe someone’ll come along with a winch. ;)

By: Bob

Bob — Mon, 20 Nov 2006 23:21:46 +0000

I love Robot Chicken, and I collect giraffes (I’m really tall, and people used to tease me that I’m sort of like one) and that is one of my favorite clips. I was just telling my buddy about it the other day and how he had to watch it.