Comments on: My afternoon http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/ Wed, 19 Nov 2008 12:12:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Pam http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10568 Pam Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:21:37 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10568 All I can say now is you are a righteous dude. You've heard it all. You will feel it all. Wish I could be at the wake. All I can say now is you are a righteous dude.

You’ve heard it all. You will feel it all. Wish I could be at the wake.

]]> By: melissa pacetti http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10569 melissa pacetti Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:28:15 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10569 hey, it's fish again..... i talked to jenny earlier and she told me to tell youif she doesn't get around to it. it's just a thought. when you feel up to it, you might want to call social security offices up there to figure out how to get that going. i waited a few weeks after it all calmed down, so you may too. it is so helpful, after 3 yrs knowing i will always get that income. it s social security survivor benefits. i get it for me, jada, and p-man. we each get 417.00, so it's right over 1250.00 a month. which if i work partime, it helps. if b.j. pretty much ever worked and paid taxes, you should qualify. just wanted u to know. i was freakin' over the finances too. it's enough for me too live off of most of the time. fish hey, it’s fish again….. i talked to jenny earlier and she told me to tell youif she doesn’t get around to it. it’s just a thought. when you feel up to it, you might want to call social security offices up there to figure out how to get that going. i waited a few weeks after it all calmed down, so you may too. it is so helpful, after 3 yrs knowing i will always get that income. it
s social security survivor benefits. i get it for me, jada, and p-man. we each get 417.00, so it’s right over 1250.00 a month. which if i work partime, it helps. if b.j. pretty much ever worked and paid taxes, you should qualify. just wanted u to know. i was freakin’ over the finances too. it’s enough for me too live off of most of the time. fish

]]> By: Allisone http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10570 Allisone Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:33:55 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10570 Wish I could be there. Wish I could be there.

]]> By: Aunt Nun http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10574 Aunt Nun Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:47:36 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10574 Answer my email! Answer my email!

]]> By: Catherine http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10577 Catherine Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:53:40 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10577 I bet she is looking forward to it, and to seeing you smile with people that love you and loved her. I bet she is looking forward to it, and to seeing you smile with people that love you and loved her.

]]> By: Tank Johnson http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10578 Tank Johnson Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:54:51 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10578 I am such an Oak Ridge newbie ... where the heck is Barley's? I am such an Oak Ridge newbie … where the heck is Barley’s?

]]> By: Tank Johnson http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10579 Tank Johnson Mon, 20 Nov 2006 20:57:57 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10579 Of course, this place is probably not even in Oak Ridge, but in Knoxville ... where I am even more lost. Being a country boy is tough. Of course, this place is probably not even in Oak Ridge, but in Knoxville … where I am even more lost. Being a country boy is tough.

]]> By: Karen http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10582 Karen Mon, 20 Nov 2006 21:11:00 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10582 AT, something I learned in a college class once....The Kubler-Ross stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) don't necessarily have to proceed in that order. Everyone is different and they will happen as they happen. :) Another thing I learned about them (and this always makes me smile when I go through them and didn't realize I was) is that it's not just for the big things. They occur to some extent with everyday situations.... (denial) Oh, no way my laptop hard drive is dead. I don't believe it. I'm sure it's fine. (anger) CRAP, I'm so upset. All of my family pictures were on that laptop!!! (bargaining) If I can just get the thing to boot and rescue my family pictures, then I don't care about anything else on there. (depression) Waaaaa, it's no use, my pictures are gone. (acceptance) It's alright. I'll go get a new laptop and I'll always backup pictures in the future. AT, something I learned in a college class once….The Kubler-Ross stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance) don’t necessarily have to proceed in that order. Everyone is different and they will happen as they happen. :)

Another thing I learned about them (and this always makes me smile when I go through them and didn’t realize I was) is that it’s not just for the big things. They occur to some extent with everyday situations….
(denial) Oh, no way my laptop hard drive is dead. I don’t believe it. I’m sure it’s fine.
(anger) CRAP, I’m so upset. All of my family pictures were on that laptop!!!
(bargaining) If I can just get the thing to boot and rescue my family pictures, then I don’t care about anything else on there.
(depression) Waaaaa, it’s no use, my pictures are gone.
(acceptance) It’s alright. I’ll go get a new laptop and I’ll always backup pictures in the future.

]]> By: Brian Friesen http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10584 Brian Friesen Mon, 20 Nov 2006 21:15:13 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10584 <a href='http://www.google.com/maps?num=100&hl=en&hs=tKF&lr=&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&q=barley%27s&near=Knoxville,+TN&cid=0,0,3385214367937891899&ll=35.971397,-83.917091&spn=0,.02&sa=X&oi=local&ct=image' rel="nofollow">Here's</a> a link to google map for Barley's. Here’s a link to google map for Barley’s.

]]> By: daco http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10586 daco Mon, 20 Nov 2006 21:26:37 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10586 Here you go tank. http://www.barleystaproom.com/knoxville/ Here you go tank.

http://www.barleystaproom.com/knoxville/

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10592 Rebecca Mon, 20 Nov 2006 22:19:37 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10592 I wish that I could be there, but know that alot of us are there with you in spirit and in kind. Take care, Rebecca I wish that I could be there, but know that alot of us are there with you in spirit and in kind.

Take care,
Rebecca

]]> By: Kate http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10594 Kate Mon, 20 Nov 2006 22:32:42 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10594 Surly's good, encourages people to take a step or two backwards. Not that it's possible, but I hope you don't hear some of the inevitable stupid things that people seem to need to say. Though one person's (my) stupid is probably another person's comfort. Take care... Surly’s good, encourages people to take a step or two backwards. Not that it’s possible, but I hope you don’t hear some of the inevitable stupid things that people seem to need to say. Though one person’s (my) stupid is probably another person’s comfort.

Take care…

]]> By: Nonny http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10595 Nonny Mon, 20 Nov 2006 22:36:20 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10595 ok, it feels a bit weird leaving a comment, like I'm intruding or something but you can delete it if you like. I've been reading for a while now and I almost feel like I've gone through it with you guys although I can only imagine the pain you feel right now.Anyway, I just wanted you to know that by doing this, the whole blog thing, she;s touched the lives of people she never even met. She got into my heart and it aches a bit for you right now. Sorry. I just felt I should say something. ok, it feels a bit weird leaving a comment, like I’m intruding or something but you can delete it if you like. I’ve been reading for a while now and I almost feel like I’ve gone through it with you guys although I can only imagine the pain you feel right now.Anyway, I just wanted you to know that by doing this, the whole blog thing, she;s touched the lives of people she never even met. She got into my heart and it aches a bit for you right now.
Sorry. I just felt I should say something.

]]> By: Bullet http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10597 Bullet Mon, 20 Nov 2006 22:51:37 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10597 Nonny, I think the words you wrote about touching lives ring more true than even you realize. Thank you for your comment. It's just as welcomed, and greedily read, as any other. Nonny, I think the words you wrote about touching lives ring more true than even you realize. Thank you for your comment. It’s just as welcomed, and greedily read, as any other.

]]> By: jen http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10611 jen Mon, 20 Nov 2006 23:47:22 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10611 I found out about you yesterday I cant get BJ out of my head nor do I want to what a remarkable lady thank you so much AT for sharing with us youve both really touched me deeply my thoughts, prayers and love are with you AT and your family blessings Jen from New Zeland I found out about you yesterday
I cant get BJ out of my head
nor do I want to
what a remarkable lady thank you so much AT for sharing with us
youve both really touched me deeply
my thoughts, prayers and love are with you AT and your family
blessings Jen from New Zeland

]]> By: Heather http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10612 Heather Mon, 20 Nov 2006 23:49:14 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10612 As many people have said before, thankyou for sharing your beautiful wife and friend. Thankyou also for writing about the last few weeks with such eloquence, having gotten here through a link, I have shared this blog with my partner and your love has really struck a chord with us (and made us talk about things you don't want to talk about). Your grief will be as unique as your love. Don't expect it to follow a paint-by-numbers formula. Sure, this makes it harder for those of us who like to take control by planning (I've been there), but it doesn't mean you are honouring her or mourning her any less than anyone else. Thankyou. My thoughts/prayers/energy are with you all, especially AT and the kidlets. As many people have said before, thankyou for sharing your beautiful wife and friend. Thankyou also for writing about the last few weeks with such eloquence, having gotten here through a link, I have shared this blog with my partner and your love has really struck a chord with us (and made us talk about things you don’t want to talk about).

Your grief will be as unique as your love. Don’t expect it to follow a paint-by-numbers formula. Sure, this makes it harder for those of us who like to take control by planning (I’ve been there), but it doesn’t mean you are honouring her or mourning her any less than anyone else.

Thankyou. My thoughts/prayers/energy are with you all, especially AT and the kidlets.

]]> By: jules http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10614 jules Tue, 21 Nov 2006 00:00:12 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10614 We're still strangers but I'm still here, thinking of you, BJ and your boys. My parents and best friend since childhood live in Knox and I'm driving down for Thanksgiving this year from Chicago. I won't be at Barleys, but I'll be in town and will definitely have one or two for all of you. Take good care. Jules We’re still strangers but I’m still here, thinking of you, BJ and your boys. My parents and best friend since childhood live in Knox and I’m driving down for Thanksgiving this year from Chicago. I won’t be at Barleys, but I’ll be in town and will definitely have one or two for all of you. Take good care. Jules

]]> By: M,S,B, & D http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10616 M,S,B, & D Tue, 21 Nov 2006 00:15:50 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10616 I want everyone who has read this blog to go out and record GAC somewhere in the world. Like the inscription in the concrete at the hospital. Then take a picture of it and send it to AT with your country/state of origin. You have touched the blogosphere with your pain and the least we can do is show that we were with you in our own limited way. "I am but a small stone tossed into the great pond of the world, but the ripples I create will echo long after I am gone." Smudge the Philosopher I want everyone who has read this blog to go out and record GAC somewhere in the world. Like the inscription in the concrete at the hospital. Then take a picture of it and send it to AT with your country/state of origin.

You have touched the blogosphere with your pain and the least we can do is show that we were with you in our own limited way.

“I am but a small stone tossed into the great pond of the world, but the ripples I create will echo long after I am gone.” Smudge the Philosopher

]]> By: jules http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10617 jules Tue, 21 Nov 2006 00:18:58 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10617 M,S,B, & D: That is a fantastic idea! I'm in!!!! Jules M,S,B, & D: That is a fantastic idea! I’m in!!!! Jules

]]> By: daco http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10619 daco Tue, 21 Nov 2006 00:29:29 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10619 What a cool idea. I can tag a spot or two. What a cool idea. I can tag a spot or two.

]]> By: Lynda http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10621 Lynda Tue, 21 Nov 2006 00:30:05 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10621 Go ahead and be pissy! You've got every right. We understand and will still be here when you get past the pissy part. Go ahead and be pissy! You’ve got every right. We understand and will still be here when you get past the pissy part.

]]> By: Timbo http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10625 Timbo Tue, 21 Nov 2006 01:01:02 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10625 Man, You and Your boys have been on my mind, since I found this link, from ROBBIN. I'll be happy to tag a spot here in North BAMA with GAC. I lost my best friend, 2.5 years ago, and it sucks, just as much today, as it did, the day we lost her.. Peace and Love be with and sorround her whole family and all of her friends. Timbo in Bama Man, You and Your boys have been on my mind, since I found this link, from ROBBIN. I’ll be happy to tag a spot here in North BAMA with GAC. I lost my best friend, 2.5 years ago, and it sucks, just as much today, as it did, the day we lost her.. Peace and Love be with and sorround her whole family and all of her friends.
Timbo in Bama

]]> By: g3 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10643 g3 Tue, 21 Nov 2006 02:05:28 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/my-afternoon/#comment-10643 AT, you mentioned in a post much earlier about GAC's secret internet name being Radhya and how you couldn't find any information about the name. You were right about her being Krishna's lover but the spelling was what was preventing you from finding it on Wiki. The name is actually spelled Radha and here is the link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radha if you feel like immersing yourself in some Hindu mythology. May GAC always be the Radha to your Krishna. Their love, like yours, is eternal. [lifts beer to cheers] AT, you mentioned in a post much earlier about GAC’s secret internet name being Radhya and how you couldn’t find any information about the name. You were right about her being Krishna’s lover but the spelling was what was preventing you from finding it on Wiki. The name is actually spelled Radha and here is the link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Radha if you feel like immersing yourself in some Hindu mythology.
May GAC always be the Radha to your Krishna. Their love, like yours, is eternal.
[lifts beer to cheers]

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