Comments on: The funeral home visit, or, Lets Write an Obituary! http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/ Wed, 19 Nov 2008 12:13:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Robbin http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10526 Robbin Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:02:24 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10526 Wow. I have thought, as I have read your writing of the last few weeks, what it would be like to lose my husband, Kris. That man is seriously my other, better half. We were love at first sight, and it has only gotten better since. I could not get past the thought of him not being there, let alone how I would deal with the aftermath. My heart goes out to you. Keep on. I will include a prayer for BJ, and for your family and her parents in our Thanksgiving on Saturday (not celebrating Thursday, long story, treacherous family issues...) Wow.

I have thought, as I have read your writing of the last few weeks, what it would be like to lose my husband, Kris. That man is seriously my other, better half. We were love at first sight, and it has only gotten better since. I could not get past the thought of him not being there, let alone how I would deal with the aftermath. My heart goes out to you. Keep on.

I will include a prayer for BJ, and for your family and her parents in our Thanksgiving on Saturday (not celebrating Thursday, long story, treacherous family issues…)

]]> By: robin andrea http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10534 robin andrea Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:37:54 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10534 My first time here, and I have come to extend my sympathies to you and your sons, on your profound loss. Your writing is quite beautiful and I appreciate how you have kept on with it, while facing such a moment as this. I have saved a poem for many years written by an old poet of Santa Cruz, Ca- William Everson. "These are the ravens of my soul sloping above the lonely fields And cawing, cawing. I have released them now, And sent them wavering down the sky. Learning the slow witchery of the wind. And crying on the farthest fences of the world." My condolences to you. My first time here, and I have come to extend my sympathies to you and your sons, on your profound loss. Your writing is quite beautiful and I appreciate how you have kept on with it, while facing such a moment as this. I have saved a poem for many years written by an old poet of Santa Cruz, Ca- William Everson.

“These are the ravens of my soul
sloping above the lonely fields
And cawing, cawing.
I have released them now,
And sent them wavering down the sky.
Learning the slow witchery of the wind.
And crying on the farthest fences of the world.”

My condolences to you.

]]> By: damama http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10536 damama Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:42:11 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10536 You will hear from Lise. She and Jenny are coming down and would like to give you the gift of doing the funeral service. Nothing schmaltzy-they have too much respect for you, but something meaningful and hopeful. Lise jumped on the chance-it's what she does, and she will do it well. You can trust her and Jenny. You will hear from Lise. She and Jenny are coming down and would like to give you the gift of doing the funeral service. Nothing schmaltzy-they have too much respect for you, but something meaningful and hopeful. Lise jumped on the chance-it’s what she does, and she will do it well. You can trust her and Jenny.

]]> By: yankee,transferred http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10537 yankee,transferred Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:42:48 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10537 My first time here, too. I send warm and loving thoughts to you and your boys. My first time here, too. I send warm and loving thoughts to you and your boys.

]]> By: Dana http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10540 Dana Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:44:45 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10540 That is a wonderful obit. still thinking of you and your family. That is a wonderful obit.
still thinking of you and your family.

]]> By: William Worthey http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10542 William Worthey Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:50:24 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10542 Jake what time should non family arrive at the funeral home. The obit was sound. Let me know and I and the fam will be there. Jake what time should non family arrive at the funeral home. The obit was sound. Let me know and I and the fam will be there.

]]> By: sumgurl http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10544 sumgurl Mon, 20 Nov 2006 17:55:58 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10544 if you haven't already taken your bicycle needs to a bike shop (the one here in OR that you referenced is a very good one so i am not here to slander - josh is pals with the guy) --- josh is an avid road and mountain biker and also does bike repairs, tune-ups, and restorations for cheap (free for friends not counting parts). and i'm not just saying that to plug his services via AT, i swear. if you haven’t already taken your bicycle needs to a bike shop (the one here in OR that you referenced is a very good one so i am not here to slander - josh is pals with the guy) — josh is an avid road and mountain biker and also does bike repairs, tune-ups, and restorations for cheap (free for friends not counting parts). and i’m not just saying that to plug his services via AT, i swear.

]]> By: MSueS http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10546 MSueS Mon, 20 Nov 2006 18:04:05 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10546 I have been to some unusual funerals and heard about some from others, as well. Whatever works is what works, you know? The Cowboy funeral was very cool, there was one I heard about (a cultural type one) where men and women are separated and some drinking goes on and then there is a fight...which seems to bring the men and women together before it is time to leave. I went to one where a high school class signed the coffin, as they would a yearbook. A container of various colored Sharpies set on the casket for that purpose. One I was at had a specially requested flower arrangement with an actual dial telephone as the centerpiece of the spray, implied but not stated was that "Jesus called". Funeral music is personal too, Freebird, Woman (by John Lennon) Spirit in the Sky. I think my favorite funeral was one I watched and didn't attend...which is a good reason to like it over all the others. It was for the Clown on Mary Tyler Moore Show. That one can still bring tears to my eyes. My point is, there is no wrong way and you will do it exactly right. Peace, Sue I have been to some unusual funerals and heard about some from others, as well. Whatever works is what works, you know? The Cowboy funeral was very cool, there was one I heard about (a cultural type one) where men and women are separated and some drinking goes on and then there is a fight…which seems to bring the men and women together before it is time to leave. I went to one where a high school class signed the coffin, as they would a yearbook. A container of various colored Sharpies set on the casket for that purpose. One I was at had a specially requested flower arrangement with an actual dial telephone as the centerpiece of the spray, implied but not stated was that “Jesus called”. Funeral music is personal too, Freebird, Woman (by John Lennon) Spirit in the Sky. I think my favorite funeral was one I watched and didn’t attend…which is a good reason to like it over all the others. It was for the Clown on Mary Tyler Moore Show. That one can still bring tears to my eyes. My point is, there is no wrong way and you will do it exactly right. Peace, Sue

]]> By: Me http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10551 Me Mon, 20 Nov 2006 18:41:30 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10551 Just found your blog through Amalah. So incredibly sorry for your loss, but so amazed by your incredible attitude. You're being exactly what your wife would hope for, I'd imagine. Exactly what I'd hope for in my hubby if God forbid, I left this earth anytime soon. Wasn't surprised to see it all happened in Oak Ridge- cancer capitol of TN. My mom worked at St. Jude for years, and it always amazed me how many cases of cancer came from Oak Ridge. I'd say there was something in the water, but I'm sure the gov't would hunt me down. So I'll just say, what a horrible coincidence. I think one of the sweetest funeral memories I have is from my mom's funeral- we (the kids & grandkids) let helium balloons go "to heaven" by the casket. A little bit Redneck, a little bit celebratory, but lots of fun. You'll be in my prayers. Just found your blog through Amalah. So incredibly sorry for your loss, but so amazed by your incredible attitude. You’re being exactly what your wife would hope for, I’d imagine. Exactly what I’d hope for in my hubby if God forbid, I left this earth anytime soon.

Wasn’t surprised to see it all happened in Oak Ridge- cancer capitol of TN. My mom worked at St. Jude for years, and it always amazed me how many cases of cancer came from Oak Ridge. I’d say there was something in the water, but I’m sure the gov’t would hunt me down. So I’ll just say, what a horrible coincidence.

I think one of the sweetest funeral memories I have is from my mom’s funeral- we (the kids & grandkids) let helium balloons go “to heaven” by the casket. A little bit Redneck, a little bit celebratory, but lots of fun.

You’ll be in my prayers.

]]> By: Kristin http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10554 Kristin Mon, 20 Nov 2006 18:57:51 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10554 I am so very sorry to hear about your wife's death... I will keep you and your children in my prayers. I am so very sorry to hear about your wife’s death… I will keep you and your children in my prayers.

]]> By: Atomictumor http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10558 Atomictumor Mon, 20 Nov 2006 19:22:15 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10558 Dude, cancer had nothing to do with it. Dude, cancer had nothing to do with it.

]]> By: melissa pacetti http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10583 melissa pacetti Mon, 20 Nov 2006 21:12:00 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10583 seriously, people will crawl under your skin. someone told me at paul's funeral, keep in mind, he passed from ingesting too many medications, not your everyday od, but, someone had the nerve to tell me at his fucking viewing that he'd been shootin' up. why tell me that? he's gone, what am i going to do? people are so strange when it comes to these things. but, just hang in there. i feel like i am reliving what i went through, just reading it differently with different characters. it seems crazy, but i can honestly say................... the Lord WILL NOT GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE. as crazy as it seems right now, you'll see what i mean one day. all of you kilpatricks have always amazed me, you guys are what i wanted my family to be like. you guys are simply awesome. much love to everyone, fish seriously, people will crawl under your skin. someone told me at paul’s funeral, keep in mind, he passed from ingesting too many medications, not your everyday od, but, someone had the nerve to tell me at his fucking viewing that he’d been shootin’ up. why tell me that? he’s gone, what am i going to do? people are so strange when it comes to these things. but, just hang in there. i feel like i am reliving what i went through, just reading it differently with different characters. it seems crazy, but i can honestly say………………. the Lord WILL NOT GIVE YOU MORE THAN YOU CAN HANDLE. as crazy as it seems right now, you’ll see what i mean one day. all of you kilpatricks have always amazed me, you guys are what i wanted my family to be like. you guys are simply awesome. much love to everyone, fish

]]> By: daco http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10585 daco Mon, 20 Nov 2006 21:25:40 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10585 Here you go tank. http://www.barleystaproom.com/knoxville/ Here you go tank.

http://www.barleystaproom.com/knoxville/

]]> By: Patty http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10599 Patty Mon, 20 Nov 2006 23:16:00 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/20/the-funeral-home-visit-or-lets-write-an-obituary/#comment-10599 Your words and tribute to BJ are wonderful. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers. Your words and tribute to BJ are wonderful. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.

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