Comments on: A few thousand words http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/ Sat, 05 Jul 2008 22:55:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.1.2 By: Susan http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12937 Susan Thu, 30 Nov 2006 17:55:29 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12937 I can't even imagine how hard that must be. :( I can’t even imagine how hard that must be. :(

]]> By: COCO http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12940 COCO Thu, 30 Nov 2006 18:07:15 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12940 Prince AT.....*big hug*......what is the story behind the beautiful BJ artwork... I love it. coco Prince AT…..*big hug*……what is the story behind the beautiful BJ artwork… I love it.

coco

]]> By: Denette http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12942 Denette Thu, 30 Nov 2006 18:23:23 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12942 I love that picture of BJ...its so her. I love that picture of BJ…its so her.

]]> By: no name slob http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12956 no name slob Thu, 30 Nov 2006 18:53:37 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12956 Hi, AT -- I've been lurking here for so long it almost seems as though I've missed my window to come out of the shadows...but here I am doing it nonetheless. I've been following your story with BJ since Dan Renzi first linked to you on November 14. While I'm not now nor have I ever been a praying person (I'm in the atheist boat as you are/were..although I'm technically sitting below decks with the agnostics), I was hoping as hard as I could with my little heathen heart that things would turn out for the best--and I'm terribly, terribly sorry that they didn't. I never commented because I just couldn't find the proper words, and I (obviously) can't find them now, either. Your writing is stunningly vivid, funny, and intimate all at once, and it puts mine to shame. Still, I wanted to finally post and let you know that I'm still thinking of you guys, and, and like others have said, I'm here for the long haul now. In fact, I'm here several times a day. When I should be working. Thanks a lot. Heh. Sending more good wishes from across the sea (I'm a (long-winded) Minnesotan living in Rome), no name slob Hi, AT —

I’ve been lurking here for so long it almost seems as though I’ve missed my window to come out of the shadows…but here I am doing it nonetheless. I’ve been following your story with BJ since Dan Renzi first linked to you on November 14. While I’m not now nor have I ever been a praying person (I’m in the atheist boat as you are/were..although I’m technically sitting below decks with the agnostics), I was hoping as hard as I could with my little heathen heart that things would turn out for the best–and I’m terribly, terribly sorry that they didn’t.

I never commented because I just couldn’t find the proper words, and I (obviously) can’t find them now, either. Your writing is stunningly vivid, funny, and intimate all at once, and it puts mine to shame. Still, I wanted to finally post and let you know that I’m still thinking of you guys, and, and like others have said, I’m here for the long haul now. In fact, I’m here several times a day. When I should be working. Thanks a lot. Heh.

Sending more good wishes from across the sea (I’m a (long-winded) Minnesotan living in Rome),

no name slob

]]> By: damama http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12958 damama Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:10:11 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12958 The hair spray is mine. Tears for the rest. I love you. The hair spray is mine. Tears for the rest. I love you.

]]> By: Atomictumor http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12959 Atomictumor Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:15:19 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12959 Hey no name slob (henceforth NNS, on account of because), thanks for delurking. The Morrissey show sounded nice! Mom, its all yours. I hate to let good feminine hygiene products go to waste... Hey no name slob (henceforth NNS, on account of because), thanks for delurking. The Morrissey show sounded nice!
Mom, its all yours.
I hate to let good feminine hygiene products go to waste…

]]> By: NOF http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12960 NOF Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:16:41 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12960 Just curious, why do you wear your wedding band on your right hand? Is that protocol when one's spouse passes away? Seriously, I don't know! Because wedding bands are worn on the left and it was new to me. And I do love the way you have hers on too! Also, been with the flu and have not gotten that N'Awlins package out just yet. Sorry. But it won't spoil! Just curious, why do you wear your wedding band on your right hand? Is that protocol when one’s spouse passes away? Seriously, I don’t know! Because wedding bands are worn on the left and it was new to me. And I do love the way you have hers on too!

Also, been with the flu and have not gotten that N’Awlins package out just yet. Sorry. But it won’t spoil!

]]> By: Atomictumor http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12961 Atomictumor Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:21:14 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12961 Guys, this looks really sad, but the truth is there really isn't much pathos on my part right now at all. Its just feeling like our new life. And that I get room to hang my t-shirts up now. Guys, this looks really sad, but the truth is there really isn’t much pathos on my part right now at all. Its just feeling like our new life. And that I get room to hang my t-shirts up now.

]]> By: califdudes http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12962 califdudes Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:23:06 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12962 Pictures usually tell a thousand, yours tell a million. Continue the good work AT, you are still my daughter's hero, she told me so. And she wants very much some day to be loved by someone like you love BJ, she told me that too. Vickie Pictures usually tell a thousand, yours tell a million. Continue the good work AT, you are still my daughter’s hero, she told me so. And she wants very much some day to be loved by someone like you love BJ, she told me that too.
Vickie

]]> By: califdudes http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12963 califdudes Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:26:12 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12963 PS: She also told her boyfreind that and he said he did love her that much, and she said how do you know I am not sick or dying and I said "Shut up...we are not testing" PS: She also told her boyfreind that and he said he did love her that much, and she said how do you know I am not sick or dying and I said “Shut up…we are not testing”

]]> By: Kristi http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12964 Kristi Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:38:55 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12964 I check in here multiple times each day to see how you and your boys are doing. Thank you for allowing total strangers like me to to read your story and follow you on your journey. There are so many things I want to say after each of your posts, but I'm never sure how to put them in writing. I think of you all often and I know you and your boys are going to have a wonderul life together and that BJ will always be with you. I check in here multiple times each day to see how you and your boys are doing. Thank you for allowing total strangers like me to to read your story and follow you on your journey. There are so many things I want to say after each of your posts, but I’m never sure how to put them in writing. I think of you all often and I know you and your boys are going to have a wonderul life together and that BJ will always be with you.

]]> By: MountZionRyan http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12965 MountZionRyan Thu, 30 Nov 2006 19:40:12 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12965 De-lurking... AT, I- emailed you yesterday. I wont repeat all that here. On wedding bands I can say a few words. I've heard it is common, when one's spouse dies, to switch the ring from one hand to the other. Interestingly the hand said ring begins on depends where you live. Left for Western Europe/US, right for Eastern Europe. However, if i'm not mistaken, the picture is reversed (being taken in a mirror), so AT is wearing his ring on his left hand. De-lurking…
AT, I- emailed you yesterday. I wont repeat all that here.

On wedding bands I can say a few words.
I’ve heard it is common, when one’s spouse dies, to switch the ring from one hand to the other. Interestingly the hand said ring begins on depends where you live. Left for Western Europe/US, right for Eastern Europe.

However, if i’m not mistaken, the picture is reversed (being taken in a mirror), so AT is wearing his ring on his left hand.

]]> By: sumgurl http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12968 sumgurl Thu, 30 Nov 2006 20:34:46 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12968 i want to say something but it's too much to say ... thoughts are with you daily, like the freak i am. i want to say something but it’s too much to say … thoughts are with you daily, like the freak i am.

]]> By: jennster http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12971 jennster Thu, 30 Nov 2006 21:26:23 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12971 oh how can you make me laugh (comments) at a time like this? don't know, but you did. my thoughts are with you. still. oh how can you make me laugh (comments) at a time like this? don’t know, but you did. my thoughts are with you. still.

]]> By: CourtneyJo http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12980 CourtneyJo Thu, 30 Nov 2006 21:36:06 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12980 AT, Like no name slob, I have been lurking here for a while but didn't quite know what to say. I found your site through a link on ClubMom, right before BJ lost her battle. Because I don't know you or your wife, I don't feel right about commenting on your lives, but I do greatly enjoy reading your stories. I guess the thing I most want to say is "Thank you". I believe I am in a unique group, as I am the wife of a widower (or a WoW as we're known on the web...catchy name for a difficult position), and your writing has helped give me some insight into what my husband must have gone through, years ago when he lost his first wife. I don't have any words of wisdom, and honestly we WoW's tend to be a bit of a cynical bunch at times, so I will spare you all of that. I just want you to know, that though we are on opposite sides of similar situations, I appreciate you sharing. AT,

Like no name slob, I have been lurking here for a while but didn’t quite know what to say. I found your site through a link on ClubMom, right before BJ lost her battle.
Because I don’t know you or your wife, I don’t feel right about commenting on your lives, but I do greatly enjoy reading your stories.

I guess the thing I most want to say is “Thank you”. I believe I am in a unique group, as I am the wife of a widower (or a WoW as we’re known on the web…catchy name for a difficult position), and your writing has helped give me some insight into what my husband must have gone through, years ago when he lost his first wife.

I don’t have any words of wisdom, and honestly we WoW’s tend to be a bit of a cynical bunch at times, so I will spare you all of that. I just want you to know, that though we are on opposite sides of similar situations, I appreciate you sharing.

]]> By: AT http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12981 AT Thu, 30 Nov 2006 21:41:53 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12981 MountZionRyan for the win! BJs band fits my right pinky, while mine is on my left ring finger. MountZionRyan for the win!
BJs band fits my right pinky, while mine is on my left ring finger.

]]> By: AT http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12982 AT Thu, 30 Nov 2006 21:43:32 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12982 CourtneyJo, thanks. You feel free to drop in and comment any time! CourtneyJo, thanks. You feel free to drop in and comment any time!

]]> By: hannah http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12983 hannah Thu, 30 Nov 2006 21:46:49 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12983 Just another stranger saying beautiful post, Mr. AT. Thank you so much. Just another stranger saying beautiful post, Mr. AT. Thank you so much.

]]> By: missy http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12992 missy Thu, 30 Nov 2006 22:16:14 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12992 Hey AT. Hope you are doing well today. Hey AT. Hope you are doing well today.

]]> By: Joel http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12994 Joel Thu, 30 Nov 2006 22:37:06 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-12994 "However, if i’m not mistaken, the picture is reversed (being taken in a mirror), so AT is wearing his ring on his left hand." One can prove mirror image reversal by the writing on the T shirt. Just sayin' “However, if i’m not mistaken, the picture is reversed (being taken in a mirror), so AT is wearing his ring on his left hand.”

One can prove mirror image reversal by the writing on the T shirt. Just sayin’

]]> By: Judy http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13002 Judy Thu, 30 Nov 2006 23:29:44 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13002 Wow. Wow.

]]> By: timsan1 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13003 timsan1 Thu, 30 Nov 2006 23:53:36 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13003 AT -- you are good people. Just thought you should know that. Don't let any ass monkey tell you diffrent. I don't know what an ass monkey is. AT — you are good people. Just thought you should know that. Don’t let any ass monkey tell you diffrent. I don’t know what an ass monkey is.

]]> By: Beth http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13009 Beth Fri, 01 Dec 2006 00:11:56 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13009 {{comforting hugs}} those pictures made me cry ... again. {{comforting hugs}} those pictures made me cry … again.

]]> By: daco http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13015 daco Fri, 01 Dec 2006 00:38:04 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13015 "Prince AT," come on Coco...give me a break. He's cute and all, but I've met his dad and while he is a hella guy he ain't a king. “Prince AT,” come on Coco…give me a break. He’s cute and all, but I’ve met his dad and while he is a hella guy he ain’t a king.

]]> By: Atomictumor http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13016 Atomictumor Fri, 01 Dec 2006 00:43:15 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13016 Uh, Nigerian prince, hello... Uh, Nigerian prince, hello…

]]> By: Jezer http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13028 Jezer Fri, 01 Dec 2006 02:09:16 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13028 It's the small things that are the hardest, I would imagine. I hope you won't think that I'm cuckoo for mentioning this, and I hope I'm not way out of line by suggesting it, but in the photo of the closet, I notice some orb-ish bodies that aren't present in the others. Your little ghost, perhaps? Thanks for having us over every day. It’s the small things that are the hardest, I would imagine.

I hope you won’t think that I’m cuckoo for mentioning this, and I hope I’m not way out of line by suggesting it, but in the photo of the closet, I notice some orb-ish bodies that aren’t present in the others. Your little ghost, perhaps?

Thanks for having us over every day.

]]> By: Atomictumor http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13030 Atomictumor Fri, 01 Dec 2006 02:41:26 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13030 I don't see it, Jezer, but I doubt it'd be BJ. She always hated being photographed. I don’t see it, Jezer, but I doubt it’d be BJ. She always hated being photographed.

]]> By: timsan1 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13038 timsan1 Fri, 01 Dec 2006 03:27:19 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13038 Man those pictures really do kill me a bit. All the things, people, loved ones we leave behind when we go. It is like this delicatly woven silk tapestry -- everything is connected . . . every life is connected to everyone elses. When one is removed -- one single stich, it is different for what it was before. The tapestry grows larger as time goes on but that one spot where two strings once overlaped is changed. Think of all the lives she touched -- think of all the lives she still touches. We are all unique and one of us leaves, the delicate pattern comes undone. BJ may your spirit live on and remain close to your two boys and your beloved husband. AMEN Man those pictures really do kill me a bit. All the things, people, loved ones we leave behind when we go. It is like this delicatly woven silk tapestry — everything is connected . . . every life is connected to everyone elses. When one is removed — one single stich, it is different for what it was before. The tapestry grows larger as time goes on but that one spot where two strings once overlaped is changed. Think of all the lives she touched — think of all the lives she still touches. We are all unique and one of us leaves, the delicate pattern comes undone. BJ may your spirit live on and remain close to your two boys and your beloved husband. AMEN

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13043 Elizabeth Fri, 01 Dec 2006 03:58:35 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13043 My only regret, thru my whole experience, now looking back...is that I got rid of personal effects too quickly. Then again, I tell myself, it's all material.....still.... My only regret, thru my whole experience, now looking back…is that I got rid of personal effects too quickly. Then again, I tell myself, it’s all material…..still….

]]> By: Jane http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13048 Jane Fri, 01 Dec 2006 04:14:28 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13048 Be gentle with yourself. BTW You have great wood floors! Be gentle with yourself.

BTW You have great wood floors!

]]> By: jules http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13051 jules Fri, 01 Dec 2006 04:28:52 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13051 Your closet made me cry. Your closet made me cry.

]]> By: NOF http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13179 NOF Fri, 01 Dec 2006 16:22:26 +0000 http://www.atomictumor.com/2006/11/30/a-few-thousand-words/#comment-13179 Touche! I stand corrected. Left finger it was! Touche! I stand corrected. Left finger it was!

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